You Are My Friend
One of the things that I am thankful for in my marriage is that my wife and I are best friends. It’s a good thing that I have to catch myself sometimes in the things that I say to her in jest, because she is not a dude and I try not to use coarse or vulgar language around her. But because we are so comfortable with each other, it’s not uncommon for her to say ‘Girllll,’ when she’s telling me something, or for me to refer to her as my ‘homeboy’ when I’m telling someone else about a conversation we’ve had.
If you are at a point in your relationship where you feel like you aren’t close with your spouse or significant other, try to cast all of the old stuff away and look at them like a friend again. That’s what you built your relationship on in the first place, and that is what will sustain you for as long as you are together. Ever notice that you fight way more with your significant other than your friends? The reason is because you accept your friends exactly the way the are. You laugh at their faults, and identify with their needs. It should be no different with your husband, wife, boyfriend or girlfriend.
Sex, money, and other things may make things difficult, especially when you work with your partner to live life and manage it. But when you look through the eyes of a friend and not a lover, business partner or roommate, you’ll find that your relationship is a lot more fulfilling than you originally thought, and that it always has been.
So go catch up with an old friend.