Commuter Pass
So I started this new job, which causes me to leave my house much earlier, get home later, and spend way more time in crawling traffic.
For most married men, this would mean a strain on their relationship.
But I’ve found its given me a new lease on being a partner and husband. Knowing that I will have so much more to do and far less time to do it, I’ve come to the realization that I have to remember the little things, because time can so easily get in the way. Chores during the week, listening to the things my wife isn’t saying out loud but is saying in other ways, and creating tender moments are the things that mean a lot to her, and they need to happen more regularly now that my time at home is limited.
My only problem is, what took me so long to have this realization?
Why did I have to go away from home to realize how much I was needed in the home? Not that I think I was treating my wife badly or anything, but I was treating her like a queen, either. You have to do that so the relationship is that much more meaningful, and while I always meant well, it never really translated into outward displays of commitment.
I realize that its never to late to become the man you should be for your wife. You can be as nice and as driven as you want to be, but if she doesn’t feel she has an emotional or domestic partner, your kindness will be the one thread she holds onto, and when you’re having a bad day, don’t be surprised if it snaps.