How the Obamas Can Save Your Marriage
Sure, Barack and Michelle Obama have a taller order apart from rescuing your marriage, but the beauty about change is that you don’t have to be in it to be about it. And if you observe the way the Obamas manage their relationship, you can find that the problems you are facing aren’t as arduous as they may seem.
Consider that Barack’s travel schedule over the past year has been absolute murder. Given that there is very little time for intimacy, social exercise and spare time, the Obamas had to maximize the few precious moments that they had together leading up to election day. You can imagine those moments were comprised of decompressing about the rigors of the campaign trail, issues at home with their children, and openly discussing their feelings about the process of becoming the First Family.
So why can’t you do the same thing? Talk to your spouse about your dream and aspirations. Let them know about the things that you normally would keep bottled up in an effort to handle them on your own. You were individuals before you became a couple, and those individual desires don’t cease with marriage. Your life should be even more of an open book, considering that you have a lot more time and a lot less pressure than the Obamas.
Think about how every move they make is open to public scrutiny. If Barack leaves on an unscheduled trip, it could mean one of two things; the United States is under attack, or he and Michelle are having issues. The only audience you have to worry about are the nosy neighbors next door. Make the most of your privacy, and value that your business doesn’t have to be the world’s business. That also means that siblings, parents, and friends do not have to be privy to the negotiations of your relationship.They don’t have to participate in the give-and-take between you and your spouse.
And finally, smile a little bit in the face of success. Barack and Michelle, from public appearances, appear to be enjoying this magical and historic ride to the White House. Rejoice in the little victories and compliment each other on the individual achievements. No arguing in a week? Time to celebrate and talk about what went right that week for you guys. Work a problem out without arguing or diminishing each other? Tell each other the ways you avoided pushing your partner’s buttons.
The Obamas have a magic around their relationship that has sustained them through a stressful time. You have that exact same magic available to you right now, and all it takes is an executive order from the both of you to put it in to action.
