On Steve McNair and Infidelity
The case of Steve McNair, what ever it turns out to be, is going to have a lasting impact on millions of people. His wife and children will be the most impacted by such a sudden and profound tragedy, but the hope is that scores of people who are disrespecting their marriages take a lesson from this and act accordingly.
Infidelity can cost you your personal power, as well as your life.
We don’t know all of the details surrounding the murder of Steve McNair, but the early signs point to a murder-suicide at the hands of Sahel Kazemi, a woman authorities believe to be McNair’s mistress who was also found dead in the Nashville condominium on Saturday. As details continue to emerge about their connection, the more we are poised to feel embarrassment and sorrow for McNair’s wife, Mechelle.
McNair’s death will unfairly leave many unanswered questions. Why was he unfaithful? Why so brazen? The truth is that whispers of infidelity have long followed McNair from Nashville to Baltimore, and while remarking on the transgressions of a dead man is tacky at best, this high profile case of infidelity does lend an ominous warning to others.
Whenever you cheat, you forfeit all power to the person with whom you are cheating. When you keep secrets, the person that knows your info is at liberty to disclose or not disclose at their discretion. You open yourself up to extortion, emotional baggage that cannot be carried discreetly, and worse, the potential rage and confusion of your spouse and/or your lover.
In total, you gain very little with a fling outside of your marriage.
Should it ever end this way? Absolutely not. But the most pressing question of all is ‘should it even have begun?’
