The Evil That Men Do
It’s amazing how life can create ripple effects that echo for generations. One bad thought can echo throughout your day. One negative action can ripple throughout your lifetime.
And one evil person can effect a family for generations.
It seems far gone, but if families knew how their bad habits, their proclivities and their poor judgment cascade down through to their children, grandchildren and beyond, would they make the same kind of faulty decisions? Would they be willing to be so selfish?
And this is particularly for men – the husbands and fathers who miss the enormity of our impact on our families. When we cheat, do we realize that our sexual gratification or emotional quick fixes of today create the disloyal sons and promiscuous daughters of tomorrow?
When we abuse our women, do we understand that the voice we think we’ve found embroils our sons in silent rage and drowns our daughters in submission to every other insecure man?
And when we are emotionally isolated, do we consider that the problems we think we’ll never overcome are the psychological burdens that will eat away at our family roots for generations?
As quiet as it is kept, there is no easy way to live the life of a family man. The expectations of fidelity, stability and accessibility can be consuming. Many of us have no manual, no proper example of how to do it. And for those of us fortunate enough to have a father available, it can take years to separate the hero worship from the villainous flaws; even among the most honorable of father figures.
Cheating, physical abuse and emotional distance is not just hurtful, it is attempted murder. Heart attack, stroke, mental disorder, drug abuse, sexual addiction and violence are all real byproducts that can revolve around the darkness of one man’s heart. The short sightedness of one person can create the failure of an entire family – and without insight and knowledge, they are completely disarmed of any tools to prevent its side effects.
It doesn’t seem fair. It doesn’t seem like something a real man would do.
If he only knew.
