Everybody wants peace, but no one is willing to stop fighting. That’s usually the hallmark of marriages that are constantly in turmoil. Everybody wants their way, nobody wants to get out of the way. Before we became engaged, my wife and I discovered something earth shattering about ourselves. As much as we despised to admit [...]
Chances are, if you feel like your spouse doesn’t respect you, you probably know the exact reason for their lack of respect. In a marriage, no one jumps out of the box disrespecting or lacking respect for a person to whom they willingly committed the rest of their lives to share. But if it’s lost, [...]
It doesn’t involve a lengthy explanation, and we’re not talking about you, so don’t email about “Five Things Your Wife Shouldn’t Say to You.” This is about maintaining control, respect, and love for your lady in times of heat and disagreement. Here’s the list, and I’m fortunate that I’ve only uttered three of the five [...]
When is the last time you asked your spouse how he or she was doing? And I’m not talking about how they are feeling or how things are going at the job, but about them personally. Have you asked your spouse recently about their dreams? Do you still remember what their hopes and ambitions were, [...]
This can be the toughest determination anyone has to make in a marriage. Trying to figure out what you want vs. what you need. Most people go into marriage thinking that life will render them everything they could possibly want. That there will never be anything that they will ever need for again. In some [...]
Often, it’s easy to look at your spouse and their flaws as a troublesome sign of turmoil. My wife and I had a pretty intense argument last night, and about halfway through getting turned around on the fourth surface issue instead of the real problems, I realized that, I make far too much of a [...]
Seriously, if you think about the last time you had sex with your spouse and it’s been so long that you have to think more than three seconds, call your husband or wife up right now and tell them how much you are looking forward to getting those drawers tonight. Seriously. There’s only but so [...]
There are going to be ups and downs in every marriage. Where most people go wrong is when they do not accept this basic fact of life, and assume that their spouse is always going to be the perfect emotional, physical and social partner they could ever hope for. It’s just impossible. But one thing [...]
Ideally, this would be a day for celebration and joyous reflection on how far we’ve come as a people. Instead, my wife and I have been sniping back on forth on a number of issues; political and personal. From etiquette when out-of-town guests are present, to the definitions of struggle in the face of black [...]
My wife and I are going to see Barack Obama downtown at the War Memorial tomorrow afternoon, which likely means we’ll be standing in sub-zero temperatures as early as noon. Needless to say, I’m enthusiastic about seeing our dear President, but less than excited about freezing. Nevertheless, history calls. And not just the history of [...]
